Loss and grief

Dear Reader!

As you are visiting my website, there is a high probability that your heart is broken. It may have been caused by a death, either recent or long ago. It may have been caused by a divorce or the breakup of a romantic relationship. It may have been caused by any of the more than forty other losses that a person can encounter during a lifetime. Among them are:

  • lost childhood

    lost childhood
  • starting school or changing school

    starting school or changing school
  • moving to a new home/country

    moving to a new home/country
  • death of a pet

    death of a pet
  • death of a family member

    death of a family member
  • death of a friend

    death of a friend
  • divorce

    divorce
  • end of a romantic relationship

    end of a romantic relationship
  • end of a friendship

    end of a friendship
  • graduation

    graduation
  • diploma obtained

    diploma obtained
  • major health changes

    major health changes
  • financial changes

    financial changes
  • marriage

    marriage
  • pregnancy

    pregnancy
  • arrival of a new family member

    arrival of a new family member
  • child leaving home

    child leaving home
  • becoming a grandparent

    becoming a grandparent
  • loss of trust

    loss of trust
  • loss of safety

    loss of safety
  • loss of identity

    loss of identity
  • loss of faith

    loss of faith
awareness that your life is not as happy or fulfilling as you want it to be
Loss and grief

Grief is a normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind. Therefore, the feeling you are having are also normal and natural for you. The problem is that we have been socialized to believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural.

While grief is normal and natural, and clearly the most powerful of all emotions, it is also the most neglected and misunderstood experience, often by both the grievers and those around them. We have been ill prepared to deal with it. Grief is about a broken heart, not a broken brain. All efforts to heal the heart with the head fail because the head is the wrong tool for the job.

Being here it might mean that you are open to grief, willing to accept that you have uncompleted or current loss/losses as every human being and you are ready to begin a process of recovery that will enhance your life rather than limit it. I know that recovering from a significant emotional loss is not an easy task, I was there too and will be there again as life goes on.

As you are open-minded and courageous you are able to face with your loss and will not let the pain take control over your life. You look at your pain as a catalyst for your greatest growth and evolution. The honour is mine that you choose me to guide you through the process of recovery.

Best regards:
Adrienn Burka